2. “If I'm lucky, I can have a five-minute conversation about my sexuality with a friend, cold and uninspired. 'Yeah,' one of them might say, 'my aunt is lesbian, but we don't really talk to her much.' They'll avoid it like a cliff without a guardrail, punctuate sentences with sighs; 'gay marriage is legalized now,' they may say with a straight face. Even modest, passing comments about a cute boy in English class are met as if I'm coming out all over again, as if they're just remembering: Oh right. You're still gay.” Vox has an essay by teenager on what it's like being a gay youth in Utah.