Melissa Carter: Reading our baby’s gender code

How many slang terms can you come up with for the penis? It's not a question I ever thought would be directed my way, but it was a problem I had to solve during my baby shower last week. My girlfriend, Katie...

Melissa Carter: Looking for A-list lesbian love

My sister is a fan of romantic comedies. They make up her entire DVD collection and she often watches them as a way to relax. I must confess when I watch those same movies I see something completely different o...

Melissa Carter: A yard sale eulogy

The International OCD Foundation says “acquiring too many possessions and difficulty discarding or getting rid of them when they are no longer useful or needed” defines hoarding. Members of my own family fit th...

Melissa Carter: Mainstream churches are big bullies

Have you ever thought of Sunday morning sermons that demonize the gay community as bullying? I had not until the other night. When I think of bullies, the image of kids at school often comes to mind: the ove...

Melissa Carter: Rape is not a four letter word

I was riding back from an event with a friend when the topic of Jameis Winston came up. He is Florida State’s quarterback who was recently caught stealing crab legs from a grocery store in Tallahassee. The vide...

Melissa Carter: We’re having a baby, y’all

Katie Jo and I are having a baby. It’s taken me six years to be able to write that sentence, and it still doesn’t seem real. But I am honored and humbled to say our child is due to arrive on October 7. This ...

Melissa Carter: Celebrating a middle-age milestone

I recently celebrated my 44th birthday. As a woman who has never been self-conscious about her age, I celebrate each birthday with as much enthusiasm as the previous one. However, I believe I am in the minority...