The Gay Men of ‘Jerker’ Escape AIDS Through the Phone Line

When the monumentally important play “Jerker” begins screening online as the latest virtual offering of Out Front Theatre, it might be easy to reduce it to a titillating play about two gay men talking dirty to one another. That would be a mistake. This playful, candidly sexual, and ultimately searing piece of theater is so much more than a phone sex gimmick.

“Jerker” transports us to the 1980s (the play was written in 1986), when gay sex had become so terrifyingly dangerous that the bars emptied and sex venues closed. There were no online apps (there was no “online,” at all, for that matter), and any sexual prospects carried with them an unnerving amount of anxiety.

But that doesn’t mean our collective libido as gay men disappeared altogether. We craved sexual connection as much as emotional intimacy, and we are nothing if not resourceful when it comes to getting our needs met.

And so, we turned to the phone, a very simple instrument at that time that was decades away from becoming a supercomputer. It was still anchored to the wall by a coiled cord and capable of nothing more than connecting us to a voice on the other end of the line.

But, oh my, that voice. As the two characters in “Jerker” discover, there is a thrilling intimacy in revealing your most private desires to a disembodied voice on the phone. In the course of the one-act play, these two men share their secrets and then, slowly, their hopes and their fears, spoken through furtive cries and whispers.

It is only fitting that a special screening of “Jerker” will be held on Wednesday, April 28 at 7pm to benefit AID Atlanta. At the time “Jerker” was written, AID Atlanta had already been serving Atlanta’s ravaged gay community for several years.

As part of the special screening, I will have the privilege of hosting a talk with the “Jerker” cast and crew directly after the performance. Besides being an HIV activist and longtime survivor myself, I share an unusual degree of connection with the autoerotic theme of “Jerker”.

In the early ’80s, I owned and operated Telerotic, one of the largest gay telephone fantasy companies in the industry. Business was brisk during the AIDS crisis. It was the golden age of phone sex. Customers called from all over the country to speak live to one of our team of “phone fantasy men,” and learning about their preferences and desires was never less than fascinating.

What did speaking to thousands of gay men teach me over the years? I learned that everyone wants to be taken care of. Everyone wants to feel safe. Everyone wants to know they are wanted and valued.

In calls with specific customers that sometimes spanned years, I heard about their heartache and their loneliness, I knew their hopes and aspirations, and I shared their grief over of the rejection of family or the pain of gay bashings.

It might be easy to reduce the calls to something frivolous, but I refuse to do that. The customer’s need to be treated as a complete human being, capable and worthy of affection and sex that wasn’t perverse or ugly or pathological, was desperate in the 1980s, particularly for men who were isolated in small towns around the country. Trust me, in those days, sexual fulfillment and genuine self-love were a lot harder to come by.

I sincerely hope that the dreams my customers had for themselves came true one day, that they found someone who would care for them in the way they deserved, and that they somehow managed to get out of the 1980s alive.

And I remain haunted, today and forevermore, by the sound of woeful longing in their voices.

Mark S. King won the GLAAD Award for My Fabulous Disease, his ongoing blog as a gay long-term survivor. For tickets to the special virtual screening of “Jerker” on April 28, visit The virtual screening will be available to regular audiences from April 30–May 2.


Virtual Screening of the play “Jerker”

Wednesday, April 28 at 7pm

A Special Benefit for AID Atlanta

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