Outspoken

The Queer Cost of ‘Happiness’

It’s difficult to argue on behalf of childhood trauma without seemingly encouraging parents to fuck up their kids’ formative years. However, many of my (self-identified) most neurotic friends grew up with an em...

One Doughnut A Day…

If you know me, you’ll know doughnuts are my weakness! Krispy Kreme hot-glazed doughnuts, in particular, could stop me dead in my tracks and I’d lose all motivation to do anything but stuff half a dozen in my m...

My Obsession with Christmas Music

I’m sure many people reading this will relate to my obsession with Christmas music. If I could (which I can), I’d play it all year long, but “Let It Snow” just wouldn’t sound right during the peak of summer in ...

Choking a Dead Chicken

The Battle of Chick-fil-A might be the first culture clash where both sides consistently win. A decade of public relations warfare hasn’t halted the progress of either adversary toward its goals, and since the ...

There Once Was a Boy and a Stove

I’m not one to answer a phone call and rarely check my voicemail. Maybe it’s because I started my professional career as a telemarketer. Maybe it’s because I can’t see the person calling and it feels awkward, I...

No LGBTQ for the Holidays

Like me, I'm sure you're beginning to think about the holidays. The Hallmark Channel and Lifetime are already running holiday romance movies 24/7. This year, not only do they have holiday movies for the Black c...

Why Sen. Mitch McConnell Wants Impeachment

You most likely think the headline is a mistake, but I assure you it’s not. Let’s face some interesting facts: McConnell is a politician, and every politician likes power, some for good and some for their own i...

The ‘One Drop’ Ban on Male Intimacy

One of my biggest fears as an 18-year-old on the verge of coming out of the closet was being wrong about being gay. Perhaps my experimentation with other boys was a phase – an extended, immersive one – and how ...

Student Sellers and Their Parent Pushers

I am a competitive person but believe there are limits to how you win a competition. Something parents do during their children’s competitions really bothers me and I refuse to participate. When you think of...

My Body, My Privacy

For several years after coming out as transgender, I had prosthetic breasts. They were in many ways the entry point to my being perceived as a woman, and quickly became part of my extended sense of self. But wh...

My Social Media Cleanse

I did it! I finally did it! Well, I think I’ve done it! I’ve moved one step closer to a life of happiness. I’ve sworn up and down that social media does play mental and emotional games with my well being at tim...