Online Dating
Like much of the world, a dear friend and I were recently discussing our hopes for the new year. During the conversation I confessed how grateful I was that career ambitions always came easily to me, but that m...
Pornpocalypse Playlist to the Rescue
A few days into the toilet paper crisis of 2020, when it felt like we were observing the eve of Armageddon, I began worrying the survival kit I created in 2016 was insufficiently stocked. I hadn’t hoarded bottl...
It’s Not So Bad to be a Size Queen!
I have a confession to make in my old age. I used to have a really big dick. I first came to this realization when I was 26, still emerging from the closet after a five-year marriage. I went to Backstreet fo...
“As I See Myself, Growing Older”
It’s no secret. I’m one of those infamous baby boomers. I know, I know; you’re sick of hearing about us. Turn that aside for another time. Because this is a historic moment, when we’re all being forced into ...
A Tale of Two Responses
It was the worst of times, and it was the very worst of times. The COVID-19 pandemic, when it first appeared on the global stage at the beginning of 2020 following its initial outbreak in China during the previ...
On Passing and the Relativity of Gender
The word “transgender” implies motion — a transition or transformation — but to be transgender is to watch others move around you. My first encounter with the trans community, like that of many my age, was t...
COVID-19: Can We Have Our Cake and Eat It, Too?
Dr. David Holland is the Chief Clinical Officer of Medical & Preventive Services at the Fulton County Board of Health. As we enter the year 2021, there is an almost universal sense of relief that 2020 i...
Creep of the Week: 2020
A year is not a person. It’s not an entity at all, actually, just a collection of hours, days and months. But when so many of those hours, days and months suck, well, a year can get a bad rep. And 2020 has more...
Creep of the Week: Joseph Epstein
I’m trying to think of a scenario in which it would be appropriate to call Dr. Jill Biden “kiddo.” Maybe if you were a long-dead relative of hers who has come back from the dead? Maybe if you are one of her chi...
Mayor Pete Will Make a Great Secretary of Transportation
In my October Q & A with then-candidate Joe Biden, I asked whether he would put LGBTQ people in his cabinet. His answer was “I’ll nominate and appoint federal officials and judges that represent the diversi...
Lessons from Kindergarten
The eye of the hurricane is a place of calm in the center of the storm. If we compare the events of 2020 to such a system, then the eye for me has been doing remote learning with Mr. Carter and his Kindergarten...