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Choking a Dead Chicken

The Battle of Chick-fil-A might be the first culture clash where both sides consistently win. A decade of public relations warfare hasn’t halted the progress of either adversary toward its goals, and since the ...

The ‘One Drop’ Ban on Male Intimacy

One of my biggest fears as an 18-year-old on the verge of coming out of the closet was being wrong about being gay. Perhaps my experimentation with other boys was a phase – an extended, immersive one – and how ...

The 25% Sweet Spot in Gay Dating

The “Who Viewed Your Profile” section for most of my dating apps should be renamed “Guys Who Dodged Your Shot.” Whenever I click on that feature, it’s usually a recap of men with whom I have unsuccessfully flir...

Here’s to Hoping My Love is Less Lethal

I got a new kitty last week, and if this one dies in less than five years I’ll know for sure I’m not meant to be a pet owner. The sadness I felt when my first cat suddenly died when he was four was surpassed by...

Free Ed Buck?

American society tried to convince me to hate my father based on a century-old lie, and it might have succeeded had I not learned more about who my mother was and remains. My parents’ romance began in 1977, a f...

The Sin-icle Men-istry of Jerry Falwell Jr.

LGBTQ Americans might want to start bracing ourselves for the possibility that our most significant contribution to this young century might not be an athlete coming out, a trans-themed show winning an Emmy or ...

Piercing the Heart of Homophobia

South Fulton city councilmember Khalid Kamau tried to show some southern pride during a recent trip to New York City, but some folks in his hometown responded by suggesting he might be a pedophile. More troubli...

Maricón in the Mediterranean

I went on a cruise around Italy, Greece, and Croatia last week, and was the only gay passenger aboard the ship (officially). There was supposed to be a cocktail mixer for LGBTQ cruisers one evening, but no one w...

Finding the Joy of Butt Pain

The last few months have felt like my bicycle gave me an STD. The discomfort and embarrassment I’ve experienced periodically since April has reminded me of some of the riskier eras of my life. I would go to a f...

‘Pleasantville Pete’ and the New Gay Love Story

Pete Buttigieg’s nerdiness may be a bigger liability than his sexual orientation as he attempts to become the first openly gay president of the United States. As admirable as his mind, words and biography are, ...

‘Old Town’ Rapper Rides to New LGBTQ Heights

The fiftieth anniversary of the Stonewall Riots offered many promising LGBTQ milestones and ended with a test of how far we’ve truly come. There was so much goodwill on display throughout this year’s Pride seas...