Sometimes Y

Methodist Madness

There is a superficiality to American spirituality that makes me doubt the average Methodist could explain what differentiates his or her denomination from Lutheranism, Presbyterianism or even Catholicism. Lent...

What Would You Do?

Our society is turning into an episode of ABC’s “What Would You Do?” Of all of the possibilities in this golden age of television, we’ve decided to emulate a hidden-camera morality farce. My long-s...

Leveraging a Lack of Secrets

It was adorable to hear my 92-year-old grandma talking about the gentleman friend she recently met, but for the past week, I’ve been wondering whether I should have checked her cell phone to make sure the guy d...

Cheers for Two ‘Super’ Men

Super Bowl activities are taking place across the street from my apartment complex this week, and one of my transgender friends has dreams of being the mistress in a sex scandal with one of the athletes on the ...

Opening a ‘Box’ of Stigma

I was close to succumbing to the “Bird Box” craze until I saw Sandra Bullock in the opening scene and decided sitting through another of her movies would be more horrifying than any plot. Despite m...

Sometimes “Y”: Trading in a Closet for a Bubble?

In 2018, I received an apology I wasn't expecting, as well as a kiss I can't remember. Both instances were reminders of what happens when you come out to a large group of people, whether it's family, co-workers...

‘Flaccid Monday’ and Other Overreactions

December 3, 2018 may go down in history as “Flaccid Monday,” with Tumblr announcing its corporate suicide via an upcoming prohibition against all sexual-related content on its blogging platform. The bereavement...

Friendship in Transition

One of my heterosexual cycling buddies and I were sitting in my living room during Pride weekend when a towering, curvy woman appeared in my doorway. I smiled at the woman and she grinned back, a glint in her e...

Reign of the Mean Boys

I happened to be wearing a pink shirt last Wednesday, which prompted an elderly co-worker to greet me with, “Happy Mean Girls Day!” He had learned about the fictitious holiday while watching “Good Morning Ameri...

The Family That Enables Together …

Before he was a multi-Oscar winner, Tom Hanks gained Hollywood fame through goofball flicks like “The ’Burbs” and “Joe Versus the Volcano.” In 1984, he starred in the fratboy classic, “Bachelor Party,” which ha...