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Ryan Lee

Ryan Lee: Wandering into gunclehood

People have started asking me, “Is that your son?” and a part of me wants to reply, “No, I'm his gay uncle.” But “gay uncle” sounds like whimsically created family rather than biological kin, or like I'm traini...
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Ryan Lee: My daily molestation of straight men

It sucks to be mistaken for a pervert, as I learned this past weekend when I was caught doing something I do almost every day.My young nephew and I went to the World of Coke on Saturday, and on our way home...
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Ryan Lee: Home away from home

I'm in Chicago for my annual visit with family, and this year for the specific purpose of celebrating my maternal grandmother's 90th birthday. I suggested a party and brunch for her birthday weekend because I t...
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Ryan Lee: I hate your dog (or maybe it’s just you)

A coworker and I were returning from lunch one afternoon when he confessed to me his dislike of a particular ilk of people, then asked me if I thought this made him a horrible person.“Oh, we all have our bi...
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Ryan Lee: Death before dishonor

The line that forms outside of Bulldogs on weekends tells a story of gay fear, progress and hope. Instead of oral history, it's a bit of “aura” history: individuals occupying a space and writing a narrative tha...
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Ryan Lee: Cooking up butch queen shenanigans

I occasionally pick up weekend shifts at a restaurant where I once worked full-time, and I love the quirky flow of kitchen conversations: 8-hour discussions composed of 15-second exchanges while clearing plates...
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Ryan Lee: An erotic perspective on modern politics

The fire-eater outrage over transgender access to toilets makes me grateful that conservatives don't know about some of the things I've done in public restrooms, otherwise there's not a gay man in America who w...
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Ryan Lee: A discourse on disclosure

Last month, an Atlanta social media “celebrity” posted a series of videos on Facebook in which he outed his former roommate (and unrequited love interest) as being HIV-positive. The videos were salacious and vi...