A Modicum of Decorum

Shannon Hames

Shannon Hames: The million-dollar question

“Aunt Mama, are you happy?”Those were the words coming from the mouth of my then 2-year-old niece, Mackenzie. I remember it well because we were driving nine hours to visit a family member and Mackenzie tal...
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Shannon Hames: On living life with intention

You know me well enough by now to know that I write about whatever seems to be a reoccurring theme in my life at the time. I think about something, then a friend brings it up, then something happens that makes ...
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Shannon Hames: Trust fall with your intuition

“The power of intuitive understanding will protect you from harm until the end of your days.” – Lao TzuOne of the greatest things about getting older is also becoming wiser. Even the dullest among us hardly...
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Shannon Hames: Saying goodbye to a warrior

Most people have at least one huge fear. A quick Facebook poll of friends yielded fears such as clowns, reptiles, tornadoes, drowning, suffocating, arachnids, failure, heights, loneliness, unemployment, plane c...
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Shannon Hames: Loyalty and letting go

When you hear the word “loyalty”, what comes to your mind? The reason I’m asking is because it’s one of those topics that seem to be surfacing in every corner of my world lately. I always try to pay attention w...
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Shannon Hames: Connecting to the LGBT community

When I came out at age 38, I didn’t know a single gay person. I had lived my life in an evangelical bubble and my life was largely made up of church members. It was a scary prospect to get out there and start t...
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Shannon Hames: Conflict can build trust

I was talking to my friend, Missy, a few weeks ago. We were discussing conflict in relationships and I said that I was hoping one day to find a partner that would use conflict in our relationship to build tr...

Shannon Hames: Because Oprah said so

Back in my closeted days, I was a stay-at-home mom steeped in a fundamental evangelical culture. I was training to become a Biblical counselor to find out what a Biblical counselor would tell me to do to cure m...
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Shannon Hames: Change for the better

When I was a kid, my mom would say, “Shannon, you are such a free spirit.” I didn’t know what that meant, but I knew it wasn’t something anyone else in my family was.When I got older, my free-spiritedness m...