Outspoken

There Once Was a Boy and a Stove

I’m not one to answer a phone call and rarely check my voicemail. Maybe it’s because I started my professional career as a telemarketer. Maybe it’s because I can’t see the person calling and it feels awkward, I...

No LGBTQ for the Holidays

Like me, I'm sure you're beginning to think about the holidays. The Hallmark Channel and Lifetime are already running holiday romance movies 24/7. This year, not only do they have holiday movies for the Black c...

Why Sen. Mitch McConnell Wants Impeachment

You most likely think the headline is a mistake, but I assure you it’s not. Let’s face some interesting facts: McConnell is a politician, and every politician likes power, some for good and some for their own i...

The ‘One Drop’ Ban on Male Intimacy

One of my biggest fears as an 18-year-old on the verge of coming out of the closet was being wrong about being gay. Perhaps my experimentation with other boys was a phase – an extended, immersive one – and how ...

Student Sellers and Their Parent Pushers

I am a competitive person but believe there are limits to how you win a competition. Something parents do during their children’s competitions really bothers me and I refuse to participate. When you think of...

My Body, My Privacy

For several years after coming out as transgender, I had prosthetic breasts. They were in many ways the entry point to my being perceived as a woman, and quickly became part of my extended sense of self. But wh...

My Social Media Cleanse

I did it! I finally did it! Well, I think I’ve done it! I’ve moved one step closer to a life of happiness. I’ve sworn up and down that social media does play mental and emotional games with my well being at tim...

The 25% Sweet Spot in Gay Dating

The “Who Viewed Your Profile” section for most of my dating apps should be renamed “Guys Who Dodged Your Shot.” Whenever I click on that feature, it’s usually a recap of men with whom I have unsuccessfully flir...

The Act of Sexual Repression

A fashion trend at Pride had me and a friend talking. The colorful display that gay men don made me realize in this discussion how sexually-repressed women still are. A straight male friend attended a Pride ...

My Perfect Religion: Subjectivity

My parents were kind enough to let me decide my commitment towards religion after they had been products of bible-thumping in the northeast. My mother in the creaking pews of an Irish protestant church in rural...

The Come Down

It’s no secret to anyone who has ever taken part in the circuit scene that the after-effects of partying all weekend long can impact your mental and emotional health. Atlanta Pride was no exception as I found m...