Outspoken

I Can’t Believe This Shit!

At 30, I became what my 20-year-old self considered a monster: I reported someone to the Homeowner’s Association. (Believe me — I still cringe typing that.) Now before I’m painted as Karen “Let Me Speak To Your...

Bad Neighbor

Neighbors are a strange concept. We live in this spatial bubble with people who are virtually strangers — or if we are fortunate enough (depending on the circumstance), they are people that we know or have fami...

Social Sabotage

Downtime can be a curse and a blessing, especially in the age of social media. I sometimes find myself scrolling back months, even years through my social media timelines to see how much I’ve grown physically, ...

Trans Transcends with Transcendental Meditation

Recently, I received instruction in the form of meditation called Transcendental Meditation (TM), popularized in the 1960s when the Beatles rock band went to India to learn from the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi in the...

Leveraging a Lack of Secrets

It was adorable to hear my 92-year-old grandma talking about the gentleman friend she recently met, but for the past week, I’ve been wondering whether I should have checked her cell phone to make sure the guy d...

Stinky Flying

It’s no secret I am not a fan of flying, yet I do it anyway thanks to the Xanax I have been prescribed for traveling since my transplant. But this last vacation out West proved the worst flight for many sober p...

Eating for the Soul

Like clockwork, my midlife crisis arrived when I turned 40. Watching all of my friends die from AIDS, I lived in a vortex of death and terror. At my therapist’s suggestion, I enrolled in a weekend workshop at t...

Setting the Tone for Your Day

How many times have you wished you could just start your day all over again when trouble takes over? Digging deeper, you may discover the root of the issue is that you have yet to design a morning routine that ...

Expiration Date

The conversation always starts with “hello” and “where you guys from,” but quickly turns into a picture trading war. I get everything from shirtless pics to x-rated dick pics taken from dozens of different angl...

HRC Doing Nothing Again

The Human Rights Campaign must learn to actually do something other than issue press releases announcing its positions on various federal judicial nominations. The group needs to do what this community used to ...

Cheers for Two ‘Super’ Men

Super Bowl activities are taking place across the street from my apartment complex this week, and one of my transgender friends has dreams of being the mistress in a sex scandal with one of the athletes on the ...