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Ryan Lee: The filthiest bath

The last death of 2017 hit me the hardest: the closure of Man's Country in Chicago, which took my bathhouse virginity in 1999. The news wasn't entirely unexpected; based on my last visits, it was as shocking as...
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Ryan Lee: Scanning the different sounds of silence

I once was driving through rural Kentucky, pressed the scan button on the car radio and for the first time felt the totality of nothingness. The few seconds of dead air as the digital numbers cycled the dial wi...
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Ryan Lee: The gift of rejection: a Christmas story

In the early hours of last Christmas, as the crowd at Bulldogs was exiting onto Peachtree Street and Santa was approaching Hawaii, I programmed into my phone the number of a handsome guy with whom flirtatious g...
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Ryan Lee: Boys in the barbershop

Having been single for all of this decade, my closest and most enduring relationships with other men have been with my barbers. This is not uncommon, as there are few platonic relationships more intimate than b...
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Ryan Lee: The other side of #metoo

I don't fully understand trigger warnings and have therefore usually mocked them, but I feel the need to state upfront that this column addresses childhood rape, and is written from the perspective of the child...
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Ryan Lee: The hidden costs of ‘quarantine’

McGill University is a proud Montreal institution which, according to Wikipedia, "counts among its alumni 12 Nobel laureates and 142 Rhodes Scholars." And then there's Georgia Rep. Betty Price, who tried to und...
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Ryan Lee: Anybody but Mary Norwood for Atlanta mayor

Mary Norwood is nothing. That is not (entirely) shade, but the image the city councilmember has crafted while running for mayor of Atlanta for the past 10 years: a political outsider who has been in public offi...
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Ryan Lee: LGBT and taking a knee

If anyone thought the protest raging through the NFL was not a LGBT issue, the Atlanta Police Department recently reminded us why we should all be taking a knee. Despite the focus on the national anthem and the...
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Ryan Lee: Pride and promiscuity

There are occasional Sunday evenings when I'm scrolling my social media feeds, and rather than “Most Recent” or “Top Stories,” it feels like my review of that weekend's happenings should be categorized, “While ...
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Ryan Lee: The devil wears muscle tees

“No fats, no fems” – one of the most tyrannical phrases in gay online dating – is now a motto for American Nazis. Except, a little bit of fem is OK for the white supremacists, specifically form-fitting jeans an...
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Ryan Lee: The war at home

Transgender women are being lynched in America, and people are making jokes about it on nationally syndicated radio shows. There may be no ropes in this modern version of societal-condoned killing, but the live...